I'm just sayin'...

You ever want to backhand somebody for a sideways comment. You know the comment that wasn't meant to offend, but in it's roots are offensive. Today I saw a young lady I hadn't seen in a while at a social gathering for a mutual friend. I had my daughter whom she'd never met. She commented on her beauty, for which I replied thank you. Then she looked at her afro puffs and said "Oh my what are you going to do with her hair, it's thiiiick." She thought she was shooting the breeze but I gave her the stank eye. Her comments were wrong on so many levels. First off my daughter has fine hair. It is extremely dense but fine. Second, so what if it was thick. Thick was her code word for nappy and not the adjective nappy,(which I love and use) the denegration nappy. Third, and what I believe was the root of her comment, combing nappy hair is not an arduous chore,or burden. She implied that my child some how by being her normal, beautiful, perfectly made self, was defective. I wanted to raise my right eybrow, get my questioning tone and roll my neck simeoutaneously but this was not the time nor the place. After I gave her the look I quickly left her alone with her ignorant thoughts. To answer her silly ass question, I"m going to love her hair, treat it gently, keep it moisturized, let it grow and most importantly teach her to love it and see the beauty in herself as well. That way she won't be one of those people who's hair has been fried, dyed and laid to the side, overrun by splits and consequently at the same length for 7 years(I'm just sayin').